Don't Date Losers
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We're having a GIRL! My life once again is forever changed and I am not even sure what that means right now. Here's the thing, I know nothing about girls. How in the world I got Cassie to marry me still amazes me.
I know raising a daughter will be very from raising a boy. With Cooper, our 3 yr. old son, things seem pretty easy. Plus, his favorite thing right now is to play "Wrestle and Tackle." That works out great because I love "Wrestle and Tackle." But with a girl, I don't want see her grow up to be able to beat all the boys - or do I?
So, I've started thinking about the rules or life lessons she needs to hear from me. So far, I've only got one - DON'T DATE LOSERS.
Here's what I know, if you date losers you may become a loser. If you date losers then you will marry a loser. AND if you marry a loser then you will have a bunch of little loser babies and I don't want loser grandchildren.
That's it. That' all I've got so far. But it is true. We determine who we become by who and what we allow to influence our lives. We write our epitaph, our life sentence. When you're long gone from this world, one day people will be standing around the office or campus or church and your name will come up. After a short pause, someone will ask the question, "What did he/she do?" Whoever answers that question will do so in one sentence. It is your life sentence. It is not fair. You deserve more than one sentence. You deserve a book and a movie but you will get one sentence. So, what will they say?
I want to teach my son, my daughter, myself to live life on purpose, to live in a way that we determine what people will say about us when we are gone.
So as you can see, I need your help. What advice do you have for me about raising a daughter? What do I need to be aware of that will be different from having a son? Leave a comment and help me not wreck this girl's life :).
3 comments:
1. She needs to know she's beautiful. You may know it and never question it, in fact, i know you will. But the truth is she will be raised in a world telling her she is not. So she needs to hear she is beautiful out loud and often.
2. The way you and Cassie portray how much you love and respect each other will teach her more than anything else about what marriage/relationships should and can look like.
3. Don't encourage/discourage "girly" things. We each come into our femininity at different stages and in different ways. She will have Cassie as a beautiful example of what it means to be a great woman of God and she will come into her own, in her own timing.
4. She will need to know how to share, and i'm sure Cooper will teach her that just fine. She also needs time with daddy all to herself. She needs to know that she is enough to captivate and hold your attention, that she alone is worth your time, attention and affection.
5. We all only pretend we're embarrassed. We will never admit that we're not. But deep down, we LOVE it when our dads come to our games and yell for us, disagree with the ref on our behalf and bring our game shoes during their lunch break. Our dad's pride in us, and their passion stirs our own.
These are my 5 best tips from my 21 year of expertise. Don't date losers is a good one too : )
Thanks for the input. These are some great thoughts. You mention several things that I need to be sure to practice. I have been working on Cooper and Daddy days and am looking forward to doing the same with her.
Thanks again for the advice.
Of course!
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